As an emotional healing technique, EFT is well known for its usefulness in helping to release negative emotions and unresolved emotional conflicts, both conscious and subconscious.
Pregnancy, an emotionally tumultuous experience in its very own regard, often stirs up an array of emotional issues.
For many women, it may seem easy enough to temporarily sweep certain issues “under the rug” but unresolved doubts and anxieties often have a way of surfacing as complications during labor and birth.
EFT and Pregnancy
It can be immensely useful for parents to explore and neutralize their most troubling thoughts, doubts and fears with EFT prior to labor and birth.
Using EFT to work through any uneasy thoughts about
- labor
- previous bad experiences
- traumatic memories relating to previous births
will allow you to approach your upcoming birth with confidence and ease.
In this article we will address five key areas of concern and provides suggestions for EFT set-up and reminder phrases to use when tapping on each type of issue.
If you are familiar with the EFT process, you should begin by simply reflecting quietly on the questions listed below before you start tapping.
Write down your answers to the questions and use your answers to formulate Set-Up and Reminder phrases to use while tapping on your EFT points. Make sure you continue tapping on specific aspects of only issue at a time until you no longer feel any emotional discomfort, then test, test and re-test before you move on to the next issue.
If you are new to EFT, consider working with an EFT Practitioner.
Go ahead and try and answer the questions before your scheduled session, your answers can provide you with important insights into your true feelings and this can help accelerate your EFT session.
Alternately, you can download one of the many free EFT manuals available on the internet to gain a basic understanding of how to do EFT. Then allow your answers to the following questions to help you focus on relevant issues as you tap.
Make sure you address the specific details of each issue separately before moving on to another issue.
The following list of concerns is meant to inspire you to explore and resolve your own personal issues and limiting beliefs relating to labor and birth. Do not feel obligated to use the exact wording used in the phrases.
Five Areas of Concern
1. Do you feel like you have “enough room” in your life for a new baby (in your home and in your heart)?
Ask yourself:
- Is there room for our new baby in our home?
- Can accommodations be made?
- Are there any changes we still need to make?
- Have I been putting off certain changes or preparations?
As you tap on your EFT points, starting with the Karate Chop Point, say something like:
- “Even though I have been procrastinating and/or feeling anxious about preparing the house for our new arrival I accept and honor my hesitation as a natural reaction…”
- “I acknowledge that as my baby helps me become more loving, and as my heart expands and makes room for more love, I find that I am able to see my home as having more than enough room for my baby…”
- “I am now excited and ready to finish preparations for baby’s arrival…”
2. Is this baby going to affect your career?
Ask yourself:
- Are any of my dreams or plans being put on hold?
- Have I given myself enough time to organize and plan?
- After this baby arrives, will I still be able pursue my own goals?
- Am I ambivalent about going back to work or staying home with the baby?
- What do I really feel like doing?
As you tap on your EFT points say something like:
- “Even though this baby is making me think about my career/life in a whole new way, I accept myself and I choose to go with the flow of my new situation.”
- “I choose to enjoy my role as a /mother/nurturer/provider with a renewed sense of joy, gratitude and inner peace.”
- “I honor my feelings as I embrace my new role…”
3. Are you comfortable with your current medical care provider?
Ask yourself:
- Have I discussed my preferences openly and and made my wishes known?
- Am I making decisions out of fear, or confidence?
- Do I feel like he/she is supportive of my plans for birth?
- Do I have any lingering doubts?
As you tap on your EFT points say something like:
- “Even though I’m not 100% comfortable with my current doctor/midwife, I love and accept myself profoundly and I accept my medical provider for who they are…”
- “I recognize that although my doctor might be qualified, he/she might not be the right match for me..”
- “I deserve to feel confident about my choices, and I now choose to communicate my needs and desires with confidence and clarity”
4. Are your finances being stretched as a result of this new baby?
Ask yourself:
- Do I feel financially capable of supporting my family?
- Am I using the Law of Attraction to help me manifest the financial situation I desire or do my thoughts, words and actions reflect fear and thoughts of scarcity or poverty?
As you tap on your EFT points say something like:
- “Even though I feel fearful/anxious about my current financial situation, I deeply and profoundly accept myself and my finances.”
- “I now choose to allow money to flow freely into my life…divine prosperity is abundant”
- “The universe is lavish with its abundance and I am open to ever-increasing forms of prosperity”
5) Are you still carrying emotions around from prior relationships?
Ask yourself:
- Am I carrying around some unhappy memories of past relationships or experiences that have left hurtful thoughts?
- If could live life over again and I could skip meeting any particular person or experiencing any particular event or part of my life completely – what would I skip?
As you tap on your EFT points say something like:
- “Even though I wish I had never met (fill in with person’s name)…I wish he/she had never (fill in with the details of one incident involving the person who hurt you), but I deeply and completely myself anyway.”
- “I release any old memories of previous relationships…its okay for me to let go of old angers and resentments…”
- “I now allow myself to recognize that all the love and support I need are here for me in my present life situation – no matter what I lived through in the past…the present moment is safe for me.”
Even if you feel like you’ve “gotten over” your issues, if not thoroughly addressed, your negative emotions may rise to the surface during birthing.
Feelings of overwhelming helplessness, inadequacy, anxiousness and fear will make your body shut down and resist the natural flow of birth. It is important to release your unhappy memories before you advance too far into pregnancy but make sure you go at a pace you are comfortable with, never pushing yourself to deal with anything if you don’t feel comfortable doing so.
If you are ever in doubt, contact a professional to help you.
Every suggestion, thought, and emotion that you experience corresponds to a physiological and chemical response in your body because your body is basically the action component of your mind.
What is experienced in your body is determined first in your mind.
If your mind contains fearful, negative thoughts and emotions, your body is thrown unintentionally into defense mode.
This physical response becomes the antithesis to calm, natural birthing – tension.
Properly preparing your mind and body for baby’s birth includes freeing yourself of reservations, limiting thoughts and harmful emotions. Your body and mind work best when both are in harmony, allowing you to approach your birthing as free of limiting thoughts and emotions as possible.
EFT can help you accomplish this quickly and effectively.