Many people who use positive affirmations often ask if there is any way to effectively add the power of positive statements to the EFT tapping process.
The EFT Choices method was originally developed by Dr. Patricia Carrington and it is one of the most effective ways to incorporate positive statements into the use of EFT. You may find this method useful in helping you to allow yourself to make positive choices to help you move toward what you want in life.
The EFT Choices method can also help you more precisely zero-in on what you want if you are finding it difficult to clarify your desired outcome.
How to Use The EFT Choices Method
This method can also be used if you feel uncomfortable with the most well-known EFT affirmation “I deeply and completely love and accept myself” which is used during traditional EFT. It can also be extremely useful if you feel like you (or your clients) are suffering from low self-esteem.
The standard formula for the Choices Method is 3 rounds of tapping:
Round 1: How you feel (the “negative”) stated in a present tense
Round 2: How you’d like to feel instead (the “positive”)
Round 3: Go back and forth alternating on each tapping point with the negative and the positive and end on a positive.
When doing the EFT Choices method, you basically tap on each of your EFT points, one by one, while focusing on the negative aspects of your issue to neutralize your problem, then continue to tap while focusing on the solution, finish up by tapping as you alternate between a negative aspect of the issue and then stating your desired positive outcome.
Begin by using the EFT Basic Recipe, or any shortcut version that you like, and for your set-up and reminder phrases use the following format:
“Even though (I have this problem), I choose (to feel better instead).” When you state “I choose…” state a specific desire for what you want or you can add self-acceptance phrases if you like.
For example: “Even though my hand is throbbing, I choose to have my hand be comfortable and pain free.” or “Even though I have this (pain, trauma, or feeling), I choose to (feel/do/have this better feeling).” If you like, change the specific outcome/affirmation that follows your I choose statement to one that feels right for you.
Guidelines for “I choose” Statements
There are a few guidelines to follow when formulating your “I choose” statements.
First and foremost, be specific when stating the exact details (the timing, the exact color, size, the amount etc…) of your desire. It is much more effective and much more fun to create “pulling” choices – write them as if you were writing an ad to sell to yourself, with descriptive language that get your super excited! Go for the best possible outcome and don’t settle for just being realistic.
Always state your choices in the present tense and NEVER use the words NOT or CAN’T.
Make choices that apply to you, not what others want for you.
Don’t focus on trying to change others, instead aim to change how you feel about them. Remember, make your “I choose” statements positive, simple and easy enough to state out loud repeatedly.
The idea behind the Choices Method is that tapping while you focus on your issue gets rid of what you don’t want, and repeating the “I choose…”statement installs what you do want into your conscious and subconscious mind while tapping away any energetic static and emotional resistance.
Give it a try and you may be suprisingly pleased with the results you get.