Another failed relationship.
Another poor decision.
You feel as though you just can’t win when it comes to picking the “right” person for you. It begins and ends in the same fashion. You are instantly drawn to another, yet that voice within says, “No!”
The cycle now begins to repeat its self.
You meet, you interact, you become close, something goes wrong, you get hurt, you become filled with grief and remorse, you begin the barrage of self judgments and emotional badgering, then you vow to remain single because you “just don’t know how to pick-em.”
So, what just happened?
Understanding Repetitive Behavior
Why do you continually to do the same thing over and over, yet expecting to achieve a different result?
To gain a better understanding of why this occurs, you need to understand that much of our behavior is governed by habits, which is another word for pattern of behavior.
Typically, these patterns of behavior are not thought out.
It’s like we are living or reacting as if on “autopilot.”
They key, however, is to understand that every pattern, every habit, had it’s beginning with a choice or series of choices. Sometimes the beginning of a pattern happened when you were younger, even a child. And sometimes, the source of a pattern has it’s origin in lives lived before.
When a happening or event occurs that is felt with deep hurt or pain it creates a disturbance within your energetic make up. If this disturbance is left unhealed in the lifetime which it occurred, it can be carried over to your next life.
Regardless of how or when it was formed, some patterns may lie dormant until a new happening or event occurs to awaken it. Hence the formation of the building of a repetitive pattern!
Another opportunity arrives to offer you a chance to bring healing. If healing is not available or goes unnoticed, again, your pattern can become even more cemented into your energetic make up.
This is how repetitive patterns are subconsciously created.
Since all habits and patterns have their root in a choice (or series of choices), you do have the power to break the habit.
To release these patterns you will:
First, become conscious to the existence of the pattern, choice or behavior.
Second, let go of all negative self talk associated with the pattern.
Third, forgive your Self for any emotions you have attached to “why” you allowed this to happen to you again” or any other thought or feeling you have.
It is within this release that the pattern becomes dissolved and healed.
If you are feeling adventurous, a technique I teach will help you in completely healing the disturbance.
Using whatever method of you choice to reach a state of meditation, begin to notice where in your physical body you are feeling the disturbance. Once located, follow the energetic thread or pathway back through time and space until you locate the “Original Point of Creation.” You will recognize this point by the feel of the energy, it will feel the same to you as it does in this current lifetime.
After you have located this point, look upon what is happening like you are watching a movie.
Notice who is around you, where you are, what year it is, watch the events as they play out before you. Once you have received all the information linked to your pattern, embrace it and offer forgiveness and watch that energetic thread or pathway dissolve and dissipate.
When this happens, healing occurs, returning all things back into a state of balance and harmony.